I went with a Fly Creek UL2 HV tent and that is plenty of space for myself and not terrible with a second person but would draw the line at adding gear with a second person but there are some second people I wouldn't mind having close. My main pad is the Sea To Summit Comfort Plus rectangular regular which isn't terribly weighty considering it is almost like 1.5 mats in 1. I bought it at my old shop before they went out of business and people told me late that we could hoard a few things away so I got the last STS mat which wasn't my first choice but is the most comfortable mat I have used so all in all a great choice. Though sometimes I also sleep in a hammock so no need for a pad so I can cut some weight there. I do have my Aeros Ultralight pillow from STS and that thing is super comfortable, small and lightweight. I also use their liners sometimes just on their own in the summer and then with my UltraLamina 45 degree bag when it gets cold. If it gets really cold sadly I am underequipped because I just never bought a good cold weather set up as I had intended because I so rarely camp in the winter.

Personally I am all for comfort but heavy comfort just ain't worth it because I will be more tired lugging heavy gear at the end of the day and while my sleep might be marginally better my biking won't. If a sleeping pad starts going over 2lbs it is pretty hefty and a tent 4lbs is probably the max I would want to go but lighter is nice especially with a lot of modern stuff being light without losing a lot of comfort. If I was car camping than sure bring out the 10lbs of mattress and 20lb tent that can fit the entire London Philharmonic and a couple of cast iron pans and pots but biking no way.