Curious what anyone who has ridden both the older 11 speed Etap red and the newer 12 speed Force Etap axs think between the two? Is the newer Etap AXS worth it?

I'm looking at a bike that has the option of the newer force Etap axs for less than the older force 11 speed Etap red.

The faster shifting for the AXS set, better disc break performance and compensation shifting (adjusts rear derailleur to offset shifts with the front chainring) are promising features to me.

I don't feel like 12 speed is a necessity and has more expensive replacement parts, though I'm guessing that price will come down as 12 speed gets more popular. The force axs is also 300g heavier, will probably feel like a wash, but I am getting a steel frame and trying to save weight on wheels and group set.

I'm used to 7800 dura ace on my old bike. Tried Di2 and am not a fan of the shifting. It's winter here and trying to shift with winter gloves wasn't fun. Too much fiddling. I did feel like I had better 'feel' in the pull with the disc breaks. Though the guy at my LBS said that was easily adjustable on both SRAM and Shimano.

And yes this is a splurge, have always ridden older bikes. My last bike I bought 8 years ago, used. I'm now in a position where I can spend $5k on a bike and want to buy something I can happily ride for a lifetime.