Originally Posted by
ZHVelo
He isn't accepting cups of coffee, he is ridding himself of abuse.
Originally Posted by
mihlbach
Im leaving my service out of it, because on the issue of the jersey as a self-defense tool, it is irrelevant. Would-be harassers have no idea who the wearer of the jersey is, and they certainly aren’t interested in stopping to question them about it. But even so, lying for self defense would be perfectly ethical. Anyone who would harass you is misjudging you. By wearing a jersey that appeals to them just sways their misjudgement to something more positive (or possibly more fearful) in their eyes.
These are both "ends justifying the means" arguments. Pick a different jersey that doesn't imply you deserve to be honored for something you didn't do. Assuming away the moral wrongness of the deception might satisfy your own personal values, but I doubt there's a lot of people who'd see it that way.
One of you also got a "two wrongs make a right" argument in there, too. Mazel tov.