i use the homemade bolt and nut press and have had great results. cost about $3 to make. just remember to go slow and practice on a junk frame first, if possible.
for the cup removal, i used poguemahone's method of inserting a 1" length of pipe and tapping against the inside of the cups, but then made myself a ghetto version of the below park tool by cutting a light-gauge steel pipe and flaring out the pieces.
removing the bearing race from the fork is still the hard part. lots of tapping...