Sounds like you haven't broke in your Brooks saddle yet. They are typically hard and uncomfortable at first but after broke in you love them, like a good pair of leather shoes. The saddle will conform to your sit bones and be very comfortable. Forget about the Brooks Proofide for breaking them in. Too much wax and not enough mink oil in the formulation to soften the leather in a resaonable amount of time. I use the process used in this webpage: Uses mink oil. Don't give up on your Brooks !
Lon's PACTOUR Blog: Breaking In a Leather Saddle