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This is going to be a lot of writing and reading, but I want you guys to have the whole story that way you can give me some advise.


Post: I'm really sorry about my writing skills, English is not my first language.


As the title says I need your guys help to know what to do, I've been cycling for almost a year and I love it. I've never been to any race just regular XC riding and ligh trails being that said, I love what I do everytime I go out for a ride on my hardtail every single discomfort I felt goes away and I just feel amazing whenever I get in my bike and take the road. Before I tell you what my issue is to see if anyone can give me some advise let me tell you a little bit about myself.


I'm 29 years and used to play baseball (pitcher), my is heigth 195cm 209 pounds. I know how demanding and time consuming sports can be also any other hobby, but the only thing I do besides being at home is working working and cycling. I currently work from home which makes it easier for me.


This is what is happening, I'm in a sort of relationship with a (don't judge me) 56 years old women which I've known and loves for almost 9 years it has been quite a challenge with her mainly because we don't live in the same country, but we are together(somehow). We have encountered many issues and the latest one concerns cycling, we decided for the third time to finally get married and live together,now she never liked the fact that I bought a mountain bike because I could have had used the money to buy a car that way when she visits me every 2 or 1 year we could had a mean of transportation and she wouldn't have to take the bus, train or whatever mean of transportation is available, but the car which I didn't buy so she got mad.


Since I bought my mountain bike she always thinks that I go out to make out with women or to have fun with women which I don't because that not the type of individual I'm, now that we have decided to get married in a year and I will be living with her for the rest of my life(which I would love) we have been arguing about my cycling life, if I will continue riding after I moved with her while which I always say yes, and she doesn't like that.


A few of the things she said are the following:


You will come here to only have fun in your bike and I will be the one that will take care of cleaning your clothes.


If you come with me you will not have time to do that because you will be working and people that work here(New York) don't have time for that.


Will you ride your bike in the winter? People don't do that while is snowing.


If you will come here to keep having fun, you better stay where you are.


and many other things, I don't really know if I should continue the path in taking of just give up cycling and give her what she wants


​​​​​​Me working then being with her, working going out with her and not doing anything that I like just the things she feels comfortable with. One thing that happened today that made me asked for help was that I told her that I was looking into competing a XC race here in my country and I was excited about it and instead of encourage me she argued about my cycling life and that that I only think about cycling which will be the same if I go where she is after we get married and that I should stay where I'm if that's what I will do. I couldn't really say nothing and I don't know what to do that's why I need some advise.