My wife's niece is 35 and dying from alcoholism. We as a family have tried to help her paying for 3 separate programs, but she was kicked out of each one. Professes to want to get help, puts on a good game face, and we got suckered each time. Just before Christmas she was kicked out of the last place. A day after she was kicked out of the place an ex-army fella was conned into taking her in. He dropped her off at her dad's house a week later. He told him that she has been drunk for a solid week and she needs help. He informed him that she has been booted out of 3 different rehabs.
Due to what I observe as mental illness she cannot be helped. We have explored legal guardianship, however there is no official diagnosis of incapacitating mental illness and it will be very difficult to gain guardianship to get her committed to a lockdown facility. I said to all of us involved that we must be willing to accept the fact that she is going to kill herself with this stuff.