I was actually joking that I offer unsolicited advice, or 'mansplain' things to them. I worked in shops for a few decades and did a lot of bike fitting, and I struggle to not offer advice to half the people (M and F) that I see riding. I am especially careful to not do this to women as they get men talking down to them all the time.

Checking out - yes, hard to avoid, but I get just as excited by a smooth pedal stroke and the ability to hold the correct pace at the front of a paceline.