When you receive really bad medical news, people often do not know what to say, but they want to say something or do something ANYTHING to help. Unfortunately there is often very little they can do for you, but pray, think good thoughts. Offer help where they can. If this comes to pass you will probably get more unsolicited medical advice than you can shake a stick at. It can get repetitive, but knowing it comes from a place of wanting to help makes it a little easier to swallow.

I guess what I'm getting at is that all your friends will want to help in whatever way theyu can wether it's saying a prayer if they do that, or offering unsolicited advice, or just thinking good thoughts, it's all a way of sending love.

I hope the best for you and your girlfriend. I know this online community will be there for you in our own ways. I'm thinking good thoughts, and offering unsolicited non-medical advice. Accept what help is offered graciously even if it is not particularly helpful, realize it is offered as an expression of love. I'm sure your local friends will be there for you as well. If I was nearby I'd back up my kind thoughts with a nice ride and a cup of coffee.