So what type of riding are you doing or want to do? And do your normally like to go at a pace that is hard and has you sweating soon after you start. Or are you just out for a enjoyable and calm ride?

If you are just out for the enjoyable calm ride, then you bought the wrong bike. IMO.

The specs for the Verve 3 gen 5 say you should have gotten a large frame. With no being on the borderline. Though that will have put the bars further from you. Since you seem to want to sit very upright, IMO, you should look at a cruiser type bicycle. And one with those old timey swept back bars. They'll put your hands in a more comfortable position. And closer to you if you can find the right model and size.

As for this bike, you've done the stuff that can be done easily. Now you'll have to make it something it's not. Or adapt yourself. Make certain that you aren't letting your hands bend at the wrist when you hold the bars. I use to have a tendency to ride with my wrists bent almost ninety degrees on my old style drop bars where I mainly rode with my hands on the horizontal tops. Also letting the rear half of your palm support your weight is a no-no. You'll get numb hands quick with either.

Wrap your fingers around the bar and only have the pads below them touching the bar. And keep your wrist straight. It'll take quite some getting use to if you are in the habit of one of the other.

Also, for us old people, I highly recommend exercising the core body muscles. Which the bike does nothing for your core strength. It's mainly for your heart muscle.

Exercises for the glutes, upper arms and shoulder girdle help to keep me more comfortable in my race position on my Tarmac. Especially for long 60 mile plus rides. They'll probably help you stay more comfortable too. As you get older, then like many of us you probably do less. muscles loose their tone and mass if they aren't worked. Muscles are what support our skeleton. And as they weaken, our joints and other things will complain.