@smaug1, you are teaching your daughter well. Good for you. My spouse and I went to our kids' house for dinner, and our granddaughter helped with shopping and cooking. She's about to 4 years old. My kid is a great teacher, and it warmed my heart to see it.

I think you could gently say to daughter's mother that a car at 16 is premature. She'll take that for what it's worth. And teaching daughter simple car jobs is a gift. A friend of mine grew up in Mexico. Her father taught to change a tire. When she was done, he told her to change into dress, panty hose and high heels, and he made her change the tire again. He said that's what you'll be wearing when you get your flat tire.

I'm glad that your daughter sees the value in doing things not on her phone. Screen addiction is getting some attention. New York State just passed a law about phones in school. No phones "from bell to bell." My school's (high school) solution is to mandate the use of pouches. Students carry the pouches, and only staff can unlock them. The system has been working pretty well. Some kids have broken the pouches already, and sometimes a kid sneaks a phone in, but it's a big improvement over last year.