**** UPDATE **** FIXED !
So a while back I thought I had a problem with the compression nut or something and exchanged for one of the bigger ones. Not sure it was not good for my set up, but I decided to purchase a small compression nut just after these posts and made sure that top bolt was not seized in the top cap any longer and WOW , I heard all the pieces pop and pull together as it was being tightened like someone said on here should be . I went for a 40 mile ride , nice and strong no loosening! Yeay, so happy! Thank you !