Make sure your saddle is properly adjusted for you. You need to make sure it is set fore and aft, within 3 degrees of 90 depending on what you need and the height is set correctly. Beyond that avoid thickly padded and really soft saddles. Stick with a saddle that gives you good support and is the correct width for your sit bones and riding style. Do not buy into gimmicky saddles that use RX (nothing medical about thick soft padding that doesn't support your sit bones or are nose-less (the nose helps you steer the bike and keeps you from falling off). In terms of what saddle to buy if you need to I would try a bunch of saddles, you butt will be different from everyone else and I can say my butt like Ergon and Brooks Cambium saddles generally but you probably have a different butt and different needs.