Originally posted by Chris L
I think there might be a bit of a misinterpretation here. The tone of the motorist isn't always confrontational in these situations (meaning that we need a non-confrontational way of telling them to mind their own business). However, in saying that, what gives them the right (politely or not) to pass judgement on the actions of a total stranger who is not breaking any laws, not affecting them in any way, and did not ask for their opinion?
Sure, that might be the result of a misinterpretation. But I'm not going to relax to find out. I think it's a reasonable and prudent response to be stressed and prepare yourself for more confrontation if a motorist were to do that.
But let's be candid here: you'd be an idiot to think that after a road spat with anyone you can just wander up to them soon afterwards and make amends, kiss-and-make-up, sing kumbaya, or whatever. Just let it go. And since most people aren't going to confront you after a road spat to sing kumbaya, it's reasonable to think they are going to escalate things.
That isn't to say I would fight or throw a punch. I would definitely look for an escape, a way to get away. But there are people (cyclists included) who will not and the fight is on. Right or wrong, that is going to be a result of such a confrontation. In any case, you don't go around confronting people after a road spat. That's just dumb. You don't try to lecture any stranger unless you expect a response... and sometimes it's not pleasant.