Originally Posted by koffee brown
Sorry. I don't have a lot of sympathy, since I can't even imagine what hobbies, exercise, or outside activities she's giving up completely to raise the kids. You pitch in, but she's the one who seems to give up the most. Be thankful you can get back to your activities at some point.
Koffee
Woah.
First off, I didn't post looking for sympathy.
Secondly, how dare you presume our situation. We have been married 13 happy years. Throughout that time I have devoted my life to my wife and now family.
When my wife wanted to go to graduate school, I singlehandedly funded the entire thing (all $50k). During that time I worked out of the house 3 weeks out of the month. 1 month was spent travelling. While working out of the house I cooked the meals, made her lunch, cleaned etc, so she could focus on her studies.
Now as a father I am cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, run errands. I also bust my a$$ at work to provide a nice home (not a McMansion) for my family. Also a in house babysitter 3 days a week (9-1) so my wife can do the things she needs/wants to do, like go to the gym etc. She does freelance about 20 hours a week, but not because she has to. Because she wants to. I consider this just a bit more than "pitching in"
I am not saying my wife hasn't made sacrifices. We both have. That is part of parenting. We both do it willingly however and take my fair share as well.
I don't know what male issues you may have but DO NOT project them on me.
Oh and sorry for the delay in replying, I just had to feed baby Ben a bottle, and then one handedly fix my daughter some lunch (holding the baby) so that my wife could take a nap. One thing I can't help with as much is the night feedings. I would be happy to, but I don't have breasts.
-D