The bike industry created this dilemma. There was a time when you could buy a lot of different types of road bikes based on your riding style. Most bikes today are racers. I’d fathom to guess that most of us are not racing bikes.
Flipping your stem to get aero and becoming a weight weenie is cool and all but taking a realistic look at yourself and your riding style is most important. For me, I like to ride medium to long distances comfortably so my saddle is just a bit higher than my handlebars.