My road bike came stock with a soft-ish seat. I shopped around and found a new seat with virtually no padding. I'm much more comfortable on this seat than I have ever been on a soft seat, whereas I have friends that can only ride on plusher seats. My conclusion was that the original seat on my road bike didn't fit my geometry correctly. So, I test-rode 4 seats and came up with the lightest and stiffest of them fitting my sit-bones comfortably. Also, I gave up spandex/padded shorts a while ago because I couldn't find a chamois that was reasonably priced that didn't cause chafing. Therefore I use hiking shorts and a pair of MTS underwear. This prevents the amount of material moving around between my legs and crotch. You might want to try getting rid of all that material down there. Hope this helps.

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Reza Fakhrai