I think I fixed my fit problem!!
It appears as though I need a 53cm bike as opposed to the 54cm Felt I currently have. I have been riding some other bikes this week and I have found a Bianchi that seems like it will fit the bill. As soon as I got on it it felt so much better. My body literally feel into the correct/comfortable riding position. There was almost no pressure on my hands at all and thats with the stem in the flat position. I really was amazed!
Most other shops insisted I was a 54 but this guy spent some time with me to try a few bikes. I spent about 10 mins riding it around the parking lot. If I choose to purchase this bike he will set it up and let me take a 10 mile ride with it. MSRP is 1500 but it is last yrs model closeout for 1100.00. It has the 9 spd 105 group but I'll see if I cant upgrade to the 10 speed cassette.
I think I found a way around going custom!!