Just looked at this thread again and this time took note of your user name- bbuddha.

You've had the answer all along, Dorothy. Long climbs and headwinds are an exercise of the mind as well as the body.

This hill is your chance to be the buddha. don't think about getting to the top, don't think about time, don't think about speed, don't compare yourself to other riders or even yourself on another day, release yourself of desire and just be in the moment. feel those lungs sucking in all that air, your body working at it's maximum, feel what it means to be fully alive and present. the fact that you've got an opportunity to have that experience and practice that discipline once a day is worth it's weight in gold.

ps. and drink some water before the climb and dump the rest on your head 1/2 way up the climb.