Everyone is different, but most males would be happy with a Specialized Body Geometry saddle, or a clone of the Body Geometry sold by WTB, and other makers. Although soft cushy saddles feel good for a ride around the block, on a two hard ride, a firm saddle is more comfortable. A firm saddle puts your weight on the sitbones, and not on the soft stuff between the sitbones.

Most guys buy saddles that are too narrow, because they want the same saddle used by a 140 pound pro rider. A 200 pound "Joe Average" rider puts a wider, heavier burden on the saddle, and needs a saddle wide enough to support that burden.

Most new saddles feel uncomfortable for the first ten or twenty hours of riding. After that, you are more used to how the saddle feels, and the saddle is becoming a bit more used to you. Don't judge a saddle by the first day or two or riding it.