My 2-cents:

If your actions match your intentions (the intention to be happy, be healthy, cause no harm, have compassion for others, etc), then you will find peace and be happy with yourself.

My guess is that your friends are afraid. They see you developing into a strong, healthy, self-confident woman and they are afraid of losing you. now, the way they are going about it is all wrong and if they keep it up, they will lose you. Tthey are reacting to your development with emotional and selfish actions. This may be something you can talk about with them before you decide to switch out to a new group of friends. You may consider talking with them especially if these are friends that you've had for a long time; people that truly care about you regardless of how they are acting at this time.

good luck, keep up the wonderful work you are doing and believe in yourself. Liz