Men who think they are 'whipped' need to realize that, while most American men wear the pants in the family, THEY DO SO ONLY BY PERMISSION OF THE QUEEN! Such permission is revocable at any time. I learned this when doing collections work for construction contractors. A letter to the wife about how much we would enjoy foreclosing on the mechanics lien and having the family evicted from their home made it crystal clear to her that I was intent on messing up their financial life 'just for the fun of it'. This always brought instant action. Hubby had his orders to pay up before he could come home. All in a day of the life of a cynical attorney. The point; all wives are ball busters once in a while. bk