Between the rolls on my gut

Rhetorical statement, we figured that out on our own...

Wow! You started on me before I had my first cup of coffee!

I get up at 3:45 am to get my digs in early...

Hahaha...

I can't wait to see the finished product

Ya. Mine is 13. We seemed to have a "rough spot" with her in years 11 & 12. Mind you, she's an A student and a good kid overall. However, this was the age she chose to try to figure out how to assert some independence. It didn't always go smoothly. Sometimes she was downright rude to Mom and Dad and wouldn't even feign to acknowledge us in public. Also, at this time we didn't care for a couple of her friend choices. This is also when she was having growth plate pain, and feeling really awkward about her height and wanting to quit playing basketball. While I understood it (better than my wife) we stayed consistent and required her to show respect or at least not show disrespect. For some reason, in year 13, she has become an absolute delight. I hear her call, "Hi Daddy" when I walk into a gathering when she's with her friends. She seems to have gotten more comfortable in her own skin and really seems to want to stay on the "good side" of things. I know there will be slips and we are probably not through the last rough patch. But it sure is sweet right now.

Hi guys.

Been a bit busy lately now that basketball season has started. My daughter Leah had her first couple of games back after not being able to play for a year and a half. The first two preseason games were a bit nondescript. Pretty solid defense but a little tentative. Not really looking back in the flow. Plus she went up against beast in one of these games. Probably 6'1" and 180 (8th grade girl - My daughter is 5'11" and about 140) and she was athletic. She actually shut her down pretty well.

Then the first regular season game at home...

Game starts by winning the opening tip by a foot. Good start...

http://bikeforums.net/attachment.php...hmentid=350707

Then...5-5 from the field, 4-4 from the line for 14 points, 3 rebounds & 2 blocks. All the girls played well. They won 50-30. I made a quick highlight reel to share with family.


This probably won't be the toughest game of the year for her and she still needs to get a bit more aggressive. Especially on the boards. But this was a great confidence boost for her. I'm so proud of her coming back from all the adversity she has faced in the last year and a half (injury & coach issues).

Teenage years I coming, hopefully my daughters all still show respect! My oldest(7yr) won't be a problem. A student and people "pleaser" but it's the other two I worry about. My 4yr old girl can pick locks,stash candy and toys where only she can find them etc. My 3yr old girl can make anyone else around her look evil and is great at making you the sucker.

Dude you're ****ed...

I have the same issue except mine is 10...

great disturbance, I sense. the dark side is strong with these two. guide their force, you must.

If you start doing stretchy stuff, I think a serger works better than a normal sewing machine.

WTF is this a sewing forum? Bwahahahahahahaha

Paging Garbear...

Mine is an A student and "pleaser" as well. ;) Everyone goes through stages differently though

I think girls are much more complicated than boys )broad generalization, I know). To me it seems most boys act out more and you know, at least a bit, what they are thinking. Girls seem to internalize things more and to me seem more of a mystery to figure out. Oh, and it seems girls start earlier with this stuff than boys.

My observation, based on nothing more than anecdotal evidence (though a lot of that), is that subverting your own wants and needs never works out in the end.

The math equation is that if you act like you don't matter and someone else is the center of the universe, that's how you'll be treated, and how the other person will act.

In any case, I really hope things improve.

Interesting post...

Meeting minutes I think had some details. It's a small team with 2 guys from outside, 3 from inside. Cat 2, commit to a certain schedule, etc.

That is interesting and makes sense. You give an inch they take a foot kind of thing and then it snow balls from there to the point where you start losing the ability or desire to set personal goals since you know they'll be shrugged off. I am trying to change that.

On totally unrelated note... My Quarq is on it's way home, well a warranty replacement.

Not bad, it should arrive today. Less then a week return with a border crossing... I'm impressed..

I've written quite a bit about that relationship dynamic stuff over the years. Best of luck.

Good stuff. Love the blocks. Interesting shooting free throws 6" further back, but using the line to set up.

My experience exactly. Hope it works out better for you Rbart than it did me. Best wishes.

That doesn't give me warm and fuzzy feelings :)

Ah well, I've been around this merry-go-round before... Thought I got it right this time, guess not...

I wouldn't want to date some lady who is expecting me to give her life interest or meaning or fill in any gaps. I want to date (and did marry, actually) a lady who is her own person and has interests and doesn't _need_ me.

Now reverse the roles. Be your own interesting person with your own passions and hobbies and friends. Be supportive, but not codependent. Work together, not "i work for you now, you work for me later". Later won't come, you'll just slowly build resentment.

of course ymmv. above is opinion, yada yada.

Yeah. She is meticulous about using the nail to line up her right toe, knee, elbow and hand and keep it in line throughout the shot stroke. Her mechanics have gotten pretty good and she has really drilled her FT routine down. She may be one of the best pure shooters on the team. For a big girl that's not typical. Especially an 8th grade big girl. But also, she doesn't really get a chance to show it off too much because the coach keeps her down on the post 95% of the time (and she does need to improve her ball handling a bit as well). High school will change that assuming she sticks with it.

Sorry, didn't mean to be a downer. It's all still pretty fresh for me, hits close to home. Hope you identified the problems early enough.