Originally Posted by rankin116
(Post 16246791)
Sorry, didn't mean to be a downer. It's all still pretty fresh for me, hits close to home. Hope you identified the problems early enough.
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Don't worry, I don't see it as a downer. I'm a realist and the writing is on the wall. I have things I need to change, but she needs to figure stuff out herself and that's the real issue.
What's the real pisser is we are about 4months away from being mortgage free and I has seen this as a real good chance to relax, enjoy life a bit, save a lot for the future so that we could really enjoy the golden years. I guess I do somethings right and somethings wrong. |
I think I said I was going to do the barbacoa from the grass-fed beef 1/2 I just bought yesterday, well, I'm acutally doing it today. It's been on the grill for about 4 hours. I'll give it another couple...going low and slow. I just grabbed a taste. Wow, this is going to be _really_ good. I have to get it all stripped before anyone gets home, because if they figure out that barbacoa is cow's head they'll never touch it.
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Originally Posted by Fat Boy
(Post 16247022)
I think I said I was going to do the barbacoa from the grass-fed beef 1/2 I just bought yesterday, well, I'm acutally doing it today. It's been on the grill for about 4 hours. I'll give it another couple...going low and slow. I just grabbed a taste. Wow, this is going to be _really_ good. I have to get it all stripped before anyone gets home, because if they figure out that barbacoa is cow's head they'll never touch it.
You are now dead to me... |
Originally Posted by Ygduf
(Post 16246610)
Be your own interesting person with your own passions and hobbies and friends. Be supportive, but not codependent. |
Originally Posted by rkwaki
(Post 16247038)
You lied to us....
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Originally Posted by Ygduf
(Post 16246610)
... a lady who is her own person and has interests and doesn't _need_ me.
Be your own interesting person with your own passions and hobbies and friends. Be supportive, but not codependent. Work together, not "i work for you now, you work for me later". I'm still young compared to most on this board, but I've had my fair share of relationships in my adult life. Some fleeting, some long-lasting (but ultimately failed); most somewhere in between. I'm in a healthy, positive, relationship with someone I love and respect (close to 2 years at this point and it's only getting better). I did this by making sure the things Fudgy were satisfied and continue to be a focal point in our relationship. This along with strong, open communication are what make my relationship work. Again, this is my own experience/opinion/etc. No one can tell you what a healthy relationship should look like for you, but I think the above is a pretty good starting point. |
Originally Posted by rideaz
(Post 16247084)
This.
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Originally Posted by rkwaki
(Post 16247237)
But so few women seem to have the capability of sustaining this...
I tend to fall way in the other direction. I'm independent to a fault! Some would say selfish. Luckily my husband of 18 years understands this about me, he probably doesn't always like it but he tolerates me pretty well :p |
Originally Posted by rideaz
(Post 16247254)
I would agree with you based only on my own (very small) circle of female friends. The majority would fall into the codependent category and I find that really annoying (can't do anything without their spouse permission, no interests of their own, resentful of their husbands hobbies etc). Which is why I have mostly male friends.
I tend to fall way in the other direction. I'm independent to a fault! Some would say selfish. Luckily my husband of 18 years understands this about me, he probably doesn't always like it but he tolerates me pretty well :p but... Oh man, another lob for waki. Is he at the plate? http://www.clipartguide.com/_named_c...part_image.jpg |
Originally Posted by rbart4506
(Post 16246312)
That is interesting and makes sense. You give an inch they take a foot kind of thing and then it snow balls from there to the point where you start losing the ability or desire to set personal goals since you know they'll be shrugged off. I am trying to change that.
Best of luck to you. |
Been married 12 years, we do our own thing about 70% of the time. I couldn't stand someone that followed me around like a puppy. I do try to regulate my big training blocks; tacking on 20 hours a week on top of your job puts its toll on any relationship.
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It also helps my training that my wife travels 30 weeks out of the year.
On that note, Since my wife has given two frequent flyer tickets to her relatives for family emergences, there is now a growing list of relatives who are angry at us for not giving them free tickets for trivial matters. Some people make it really hard to be nice... @rbart4506 Sorry I can't offer any real advice here, marriages ebb and flow and there are inevitable points of discomfort in any relationship. Especially ones that go over 5 years. The best thing to do is just put in an effort and hope for the best. |
Good luck, rbart.
A quick collarbone update. Ended up going in for surgery yesterday. Turned out to be a more complex break than originally diagnosed, in several more pieces than appeared on X-Ray. So a 2-hour procedure became a 4-hour procedure. Under the circumstances, I think doing the repair was the right idea. I'm pretty loopy on painkillers at the moment, hopefully I'll start getting comfortable fairly soon. I think I'm going to be stir-crazy by the time I can get back on my bike. |
Originally Posted by grolby
(Post 16247486)
Good luck, rbart.
A quick collarbone update. Ended up going in for surgery yesterday. Turned out to be a more complex break than originally diagnosed, in several more pieces than appeared on X-Ray. So a 2-hour procedure became a 4-hour procedure. Under the circumstances, I think doing the repair was the right idea. I'm pretty loopy on painkillers at the moment, hopefully I'll start getting comfortable fairly soon. I think I'm going to be stir-crazy by the time I can get back on my bike. |
I'm assuming grolby isn't getting much of a paycheck for his bike racing. Rest. If you want to stick your bike in a trainer and pedal slowly for a bit every day, then enjoy. Don't worry about 'training'.
------------------------------------------------------- Sorry, rbart, sounds tough. ------------------------------------------------------- I got a lot less meat off that cow's head than I thought. Bummer. I guess it's going to mainly be for me. |
Originally Posted by furiousferret
(Post 16247541)
Lance got back on the bike just a few days after his broken collarbone, and I read in his book he just believed in himself. All you have to do is believe...
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Originally Posted by grolby
(Post 16247486)
Good luck, rbart.
A quick collarbone update. Ended up going in for surgery yesterday. Turned out to be a more complex break than originally diagnosed, in several more pieces than appeared on X-Ray. So a 2-hour procedure became a 4-hour procedure. Under the circumstances, I think doing the repair was the right idea. I'm pretty loopy on painkillers at the moment, hopefully I'll start getting comfortable fairly soon. I think I'm going to be stir-crazy by the time I can get back on my bike. It doesn't hurt matters that you probably had a helluva surgeon do the procedure given your current coordinates! |
Originally Posted by Fat Boy
(Post 16247607)
I'm assuming grolby isn't getting much of a paycheck for his bike racing. Rest. If you want to stick your bike in a trainer and pedal slowly for a bit every day, then enjoy. Don't worry about 'training'.
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Originally Posted by grolby
(Post 16247773)
Correct; the timing of this is such that rushing to get back on the bike would be supremely pointless. I'll get to training for 2014 when I've been cleared and feel good and ready to get back to it.
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Originally Posted by grolby
(Post 16247486)
Good luck, rbart.
A quick collarbone update. Ended up going in for surgery yesterday. Turned out to be a more complex break than originally diagnosed, in several more pieces than appeared on X-Ray. So a 2-hour procedure became a 4-hour procedure. Under the circumstances, I think doing the repair was the right idea. I'm pretty loopy on painkillers at the moment, hopefully I'll start getting comfortable fairly soon. I think I'm going to be stir-crazy by the time I can get back on my bike. Heal up. |
Originally Posted by Homebrew01
(Post 16247704)
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Thanks for the words guys...
You've given me lots to think about for sure... Had a good solo ride tonight, head was surprisingly clear... |
Originally Posted by carpediemracing
(Post 16246301)
Meeting minutes I think had some details. It's a small team with 2 guys from outside, 3 from inside. Cat 2, commit to a certain schedule, etc.
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Heal up grolby. You'll be on the trainer in no time.
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