I have to agree with The Fixxer, take the initiative and go see a counselor and tell him to come with you. There is always two sides to every story, you nmight see him spending ALOT of time cycling, and yet he might see himself not spending enough. We can give advice but does not mean he will listen, but if you go to someone outside like a counselor and he listens to both of you and gives advice he will take it differently. Relationships are the hardest job you will ever have, but alost the most rewarding. It sounds like you have tried talking with him and nothing has changed (I did same thing in my marriage, I did not listen to my ex-wife and decided she was overreacting), I knew there was problems but never pursued counseling and neither did my ex-wife and now we are divorced. Not because of cycling, but I can understand what you are saying.