You could have a marriage like mine...

13 years ago I was a cyclist. Hardcore, avid and obsessive. Then my GF moved in and my bike was stolen. We were engaged with a lot going on, so I put cycling aside promising myself I would get back to it.

Fast forward 12 years to summer '03. We've had a good life so far and have 2 wonderful kids. I've been thinking about getting back into cycling for a few months as I feel I've given up too much of myself to better service the family. But, I'm afraid I might go overboard with the obsession and decide to wait until such a time when I know I can find the "balance".

Then I discover my wife is having an affair. After 2 months of hashing that out, I decide I need to do something for myself and I go buy a bike. Then another and now, I'm building a 3rd.

I ride 2x a week 18 miles to and from work to get some mileage in - which takes the same amount of time to drive. I like to get out for 4 hours on either Saturday or Sunday for a group ride. I spend time on the boards and working on the bikes. I am obsessed but I don't feel the time I spend is out of balance.

What do you think my answer will be if my wife complains?

55/Rad