Originally Posted by 55/Rad
One thing I learned the hard way is that the following is very true: 90% of men believe and feel that they will walk out if their spouse is found to be cheating on them. 20% of them actually do. It is far more complicated than most people realize. The ones that do walk out apparently were ready to end it anyway.
55/Rad
A relationship shouldn't be like a death grip. It's not like life will end without her. On the other hand, call me paranoid but, we have a very nicely chiseled circle of trust and once broken, it's hard to get back. It's like finding out someone in my family murdered someone a decade ago, I wouldn't hesitate to turn em in.
The reason why I can say for sure I would walk out shares the same idea you do that if I'm ready to walk out, I've been ready to end it all along. If she's cheating on me, obviously I she's chosen to break the promise made in marriage and therefore she ended it the very moment she cheated on me. So yes, I can and will walk away knowing that it ended even before I was given the option. Especially if we had kids. While I can't speak for your situation (and my apologies) I for one would not stay with my wife if she were to cheat on me. It just wouldn't feel right. (So maybe I'm that 1/5th of men out there).
Once again call me weird but on the other hand if she were to outright come out and say, "I want an affair" I'd probably be able to handle that better than having her hide it from me for 6 months and then finding out from one of my friends. I would appreciate that she's at least honest with me.