I’d like to hear from the females on this because I don’t want to continue being unreasonable if that’s what I’m doing. I would also like any advice from both sides if you have any to offer.

I just started a third weekly ride of about 25 – 30 miles to get me up over 100 mile/wk mark. This is the 4th week of this. I came home Monday evening and jumped on the bike before she got home from work. I rode from 5:30 – 7:30. She had called and left a message on the voice mail for me to get the kids from her mother’s house but I had already left. It doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. My mother-in-law doesn’t seem to mind and I usually still get home and get the kids before she get home.

I felt like my wife was picking a fight with me this morning over some menial stuff and then it came out. She thinks my priorities are screwed up and that I’m way too passionate about my cycling and nothing else matters. I don’t feel that’s the case. In fact I came straight home the next day, got the kids and played in the pool with them for 2 hours. She also says I don’t help her around the house enough. The only thing I can think of that I try to avoid is laundry, but I will help with that if asked.

I don’t want to get started about her and her job because I can go on for days about that but I will say I feel she stays late when she doesn’t need to and then works on stuff from home in her spare time. Sometimes my kids will ask her for something and she will tell them to ask me. After I help them I will go see what she’s doing and she’s doing stuff for work after she’s already come home late from work.

So I ask, am I being unreasonable and does anyone have any advice. I’m not looking for marital advice. I just want to know if anyone else has this problem and how you deal with it.

Thanks