If you are like me, just console yourself by knoweing that "one size does not fit all" and "one process does not work best for everyone"
After thinking I was doing something wrong, I discovered that I was apparently always hanging a couple of nipples on the rim, and so wasn't completely seating the spokes...
As long as you get the pattern right, don't sweat it too much.
I found that for me, I was able to work it out better by changing the order of the lacing... while maintaining the overall pattern. I couldn't maintain the right twist to hold the first set of spokes in place until I tweaked the order of lacing a little bit.
Of course, I am a little strange.
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