Originally Posted by
Percist
You guys are completely missing the point.
YOU CANNOT CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE. They must decide to change.
OK, I'll buy into this concept. What I do can only influence a person's decision to change. It's a semantics issue, but you're correct.
Originally Posted by
Percist
The reasons they use effect how they change. She IS a horrible driver/evil person. He can't change that and his rant will not change her overall behavior in a positive way.
You're making a big assumption about this driver. The possibility exists that direct confrontation might frighten her into a positive behavioural modification. While the reasoning behind that change isn't what I'd like to see, it could prove effective.
From personal experience, I can tell you that direct confrontation has caused a change in one particular driver's attitude (at least toward me.) After 3 days of catching flak from them during my commute and ignoring it, I blew my top on the 4th consecutive day. This was months ago, and although they have driven past me many times since then, I haven't heard a peep from them.
Originally Posted by
Percist
the OP is getting praised for behaving badly as often happens on BF. My position is two-fold.
to the OP-Give respect and hope you get it back
...and when disrespect is a person's introductory action, tell them how that makes you feel.
Originally Posted by
Percist
to every one supporting his actions- dont blame others for your actions. No matter what she did, she did not justify squat.
I'm not blaming anyone for the OP's actions (or my own actions when I've acted in similar fashion.) No one
makes me yell at them. I
choose to yell. I could choose to keep quiet. I could choose to stop riding my bike on the roads. I can make any number of choises based on the information I have and the situation I'm presented with. It's a fine distinction which gives me ownership of my actions, rather than subjecting me to the victim's role in a reactionary situation.