at 205, i definitely wouldn't recommend the Race-X-Lites. i'm 190, and they flex a lot for me, i can only imagine them flexing worse for someone 15 pounds heavier. also, once they need truing they're hard to get completely straight, because of their paired spoke design...

honestly, if i had to do it all over again, i would gone with something else. considering your weight, and the fact that you said you're hard on your wheels, i would definitely recommend the Velocity Fusion/Ultegra combo...