LOL!
You can send me the Sante headset to relieve your frustrations.
I think my Chorus headset is 35mm stack height.
BTW, did you try it without the washer between the cup and locknut?
I run Sante on my Miyata and I think they are great components, except for the headset. It looks good, but can't hold an adjustment for s**t. I thought maybe this was an isolated problem, but I have talked to two other Sante users and they both agreed. I switched mine out to a 600 sealed cartridge and haven't had to tighten it in the six months since installation.