Hey Gary:

Three things to say here:

1. Always remember you can only be responsible for what you do, others are responsible for what they choose. Hard as it is to accept, you can't own or solve somebody else's problems for them.

2. Though sometimes painful, life is great. Try to leave enough time to realize that.

3. Hang in there and just keep showing up, you'll be fine in the end.

You have a lot of friends here, even if we have never met fact to face, we are with you. If it will help, I'll paint a bike white for you, just let me know.