I was building a wheel in bed the other night (on a towel). My wife fell asleep a little earlier than normal, so when tensioning time came, the pinging was threatening to wake her -- I went to another room

For the tire, I'd try stretching it a bit, or just swap it for the rear and hope you just have a bad combination on your hands.

For your wife, I'd get this fixed. Now. For the long haul, you do not want cycling on your wife's bad side. I set expectations early by showing up to her apartment on our first date on a bike, letting her drive