hmmmm - enough women must be "week" for the stereotype to exist

But to the OP, as others have said, I would think the important thing for anyone doing a lot of time in the saddle is good bike fit, and sounds like you have that covered.

Take it slow, pay attention to what your body is telling you, let it recover from minor injuries, and either of you will be able to kick almost anyone's *** from all that good exercise you're gtting

Cheers