First rule of tandeming: "The stoker is always right."

Seriously, though we (see "we" not "I") have a tandem and we have a lot of fun on it but my wife is perfectly happy to give up control to me, the captain. She enjoys being able to look around and not worry about the road or the gears or brakes. I have to admit that doing that takes a lot of trust in the person in front. I don't think I would be as comfortable back there. You should probably try it yourselft sometime. (I haven't!) We do have some issues with differences in riding habits, she like to coast when possible, I like to keep pedalling. We have different tastes in cadence too which makes selecting the right gear an absolute must. (The first thing that we changed on the tandem was her seat and then the 11-34 cassette to a 12-23.)

It was actually the tandem that convinced her that riding on the road was enough fun for to want to get a road bike of her own.