I'm going thru much the same issues with my drop bar bikes. I seldom use the drops and only when traveling in a serious head wind. But when they are high enough that I can use the drops even for these more intense weather moments then the hoods are higher than I'd like for more typical conditions. So now I'm playing with some alternative bars like bullhorns and moustache bars. And I'm looking at getting a set of Soma's Midge bars to try. They look like they've got an angle to the grip area that will be extremely wrist friendly. Like somewhere in between the straight across mtb flat bars and the thumbs pointed ahead bullhorn or drop bar setup.