Speaking from the Venus point of view, are there some easy, easy club rides you could do with her, where she can meet up with other women starting up in cycling? When I first started, a coworker/female friend stuck with me, because not only was I nervous and new on a bike, I was intimidated by the cycling men! And I knew her husband, and he was/is the nicest man in the world, but nevertheless, I felt self concious and needed the support of another female on a bike!