My PI Gel Lite gloves go in the wash and then air dry. Never had a problem with them falling apart and they've been washed a half-dozen times. As for helmet stink, have you considered washing your hair?
Just kidding! I've never experienced that issue myself, but you're obviously not alone since Colorado Cyclist sells this:
Link:
http://www.coloradocyclist.com/commo...439&TextMode=0