if you want to do TT's or or tri's get soem otherwise forget it.
You mention that one of your hand positions feels unsafe. Guess what, aerobars are going to make the bike more sketchy, not less, and make it harder to see what's going on around you.
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You could fall off a cliff and die.
You could get lost and die.
You could hit a tree and die.
OR YOU COULD STAY HOME AND FALL OFF THE COUCH AND DIE.