1. Pick different parents. i failed o choose the correct parents and am doomed to never being really fast.
2. If you want to improve you gotta train. It will hurt. Intervals, then more of same.
3. +1 equipment. I commute on a mountain bike with big basket panniers (but thin tires). When I take my road bike in I'm 3-4 mph faster.
4. Or just say "Who cares? I'm on my bike and life is good." Someone will always be faster. Just tell yourself they are younger, on EPO, and overtraining.