You have grandkids and still don't get that your wife was worried about you? And she's hurt because you ignored her requests, and didn't bother to mention you'd be late. My wife doesn't have a problem with anything I do as long as I show her that she's important to me. Staying out too late, while traveling on a bike (which takes work to be visible after dark) scared her to death. She went looking to find a body. Own it, and quit being stupid.