Here's my bike...
Here's a picture of my fork on a cooler bike.
The issue is that this is my first and only carbon road fork. One thing I've noticed is that it's a little more soft compared to my steel fork. If I straddle the bike, hit the front brake, and use my torso to push the bike backwards, there is some flex in the front of the bike. I can see the frame shift a bit under the weight

. I triple checked the load on the headset, and everything was snug.
So, dear carbon experts, is this normal?