Tom, if I can give a few pieces of advice; at 50 and with more than a few past relationships under my belt I have some experience.

First, wallow for a week (only one week), then get off your @ss and focus on letting it go. Unfortunately, trying to be her friend will only prolong your pain.

Second, there is NO 'hopefully' another door will open; a door will definitely open if you begin to shake it off and focus on tomorrow and not on yesterday. The longer you focus on what was the longer it will take you to move on.

Lastly, spring is here, get out and ride ride ride ride and ride, there are soooo many beautiful amazing women out there looking for a good guy it ain't even funny.

Now you're even more relationship smart and in a few month you’ll be even better prepared for that great lady coming your way; I say a few month because you have to first clear your heart and head before allowing this new woman enter (don't rush it). When she does come along, leave the baggage outside and do not reflect on the past woman when the new woman comes along.

Best of luck to you; 2009 is providing you with a new and fresh start.