It is truly annoying to get dieting advice from the unsuccessful. I hated my body and "dieted" unsuccessfully for years. I finally made peace, and decided to view food in a "what does this do for me" way. I ended up making better choices, listening to my body, and getting an athlete's orientation to food. I rest when I need to rest, and stopped using exercise to "punish" myself for dietary indiscretions. In my 6th decade I am in better shape and health than ever-- I eat what I want, but what I want is good for my body. My appetite now tells me what I need-- for example a little red meat now and then, but not much. Can't explain how I got here, but it seems to me that the map to "here" could help a lot of dieting souls give up the fight and win the war at the same time.