I'm female and found that if my seat was perfectly level and I cut a big hole in it for my privates to dangle through all was well. (Then they started selling them that way, with a hole, I mean.) I have no idea how on earth men ride bikes, so I can't help you there. If something about your body makes it so no matter what you do--what bike you try, what saddle--it still doesn't work, come on over to the dark side and get a recumbent. You'll never have that problem again.