What I'm looking for is what I have right now.

1. I live in what resembles a small (~5000) person downtown - Campbell, CA. I have ~20 restaurants/bars within walking distance, that's enough for me. So that's what I'm looking for...
2. Five miles away is pretty pain-free, low-stop riding.
3. Downtown San Jose (moderately built-up) is ten miles away, Downtown San Fran is 40 miles or so away.

I don't want to live in suburbs, per se, but if there's suburbs around me, and I'm a block or two off of downtown, that's OK. As a cyclist I obviously hate lights, etc., etc.

If you gave me a map blindly, I'd look at Reston, Fairfax Station... something around there?