I understand your need to "take it to the extreme", but finding some balance can be even more rewarding. It sounds like you have some natural abilities and genetics for the sport. You can't be the best at everything. Be the best father and husband and be a good bike racer. There is room for that. Keep in mind, kids like to go see their dad race, not hear "......when I was younger I used to be the best blah blah...."