I tried getting into bicycling several times before I finally decided to deal with the discomfort issues. It's only normal to feel muscle aches and pains along with a sore tush starting out. However, if your soft tissue is affected, that's something that needs to be dealt with immediately. Some forum members recommended the Selle An Antomica for numbness issues. I don't know if that has affected you. The SA is a cutout saddle resembling a Brooks but there is no break-in time since you make the tension adjustments. The SA made a big difference right away, although I still had to deal with other aches and pains for several months before they went away. I'm thinking that you're at a pivotal point now as to whether you will want to continue if you can't find the answers you need. Try some saddles, get a proper fitting and know that some of these other pains will go away after several months of steady riding.