Sounds like problem i had with too narrow a seat for me.Sit bones are different widths on different folks.Sit bones gotta be on top of saddle not slideing off edges because of too narrow.All the pressure is right up the middle with too narrow a saddle especially if sitting fairly upright.Try someones wider saddle to start.See if that relieves things and then decide what you want to purchase.Most cyclists got a box of saddles that are trials that didnt work.No point i think at this time to tell you any brand preferences till you find your right width.Besides what i like may not be what works for you.